P5: downvotes, private messages from Lemmy, late Creates of deleted posts, and typed details for clients

- Dislike and its Undo are kept as downvotes (Lemmy, PieFed, Mbin, Friendica) and shown with favourites as votes.
- ChatMessage (Lemmy 0.19, Mbin, PieFed to those two) arrives as a direct message.
- A deleted object's id is remembered for 90 days, so a Create that arrives after its Delete cannot bring the post
  back; the post's ObjectRecord goes with it.
- A Join of one of our objects is answered with Ignore, as FEP-8a8e asks of a server without RSVP.
- A 503 with Retry-After is waited out like a 429 instead of counting as a failure of the host (GoToSocial throttling,
  Mastodon's temporary key failures).
- Status.privapub carries what a Mastodon Status cannot: object type, title, excerpt, cover, the author's source,
  link, video, audio and event details, and up/down votes, with every media URL proxied.

Co-Authored-By: Claude Opus 5.5 <noreply@anthropic.com>
Claude-Session: https://claude.ai/code/session_012CzABvBkbcFqoHdmi8b9WB

PrivaPub/Federation/Outbox/DeliveryService.cs

@@ -123,12 +123,13 @@ namespace PrivaPub.Federation.Outbox
 					await _breaker.Succeeded(job.Host, token);
 					return JobOutcome.Done;
 				}
-				if (response.StatusCode == HttpStatusCode.TooManyRequests)
+				if (response.StatusCode == HttpStatusCode.TooManyRequests
+					|| response.StatusCode == HttpStatusCode.ServiceUnavailable && response.Headers.RetryAfter != default)
 				{
 					var retryAfter = response.Headers.RetryAfter?.Delta ?? (response.Headers.RetryAfter?.Date - DateTimeOffset.UtcNow);
 					return retryAfter > TimeSpan.Zero
-						? JobOutcome.Defer(DateTime.UtcNow + Min(retryAfter.Value, TimeSpan.FromHours(6)), "429")
-						: JobOutcome.Retry("429");
+						? JobOutcome.Defer(DateTime.UtcNow + Min(retryAfter.Value, TimeSpan.FromHours(6)), $"{status}")
+						: JobOutcome.Retry($"{status}");
 				}
 				if (status is >= 400 and < 500 && status != 408)
 				{