P5: downvotes, private messages from Lemmy, late Creates of deleted posts, and typed details for clients

- Dislike and its Undo are kept as downvotes (Lemmy, PieFed, Mbin, Friendica) and shown with favourites as votes.
- ChatMessage (Lemmy 0.19, Mbin, PieFed to those two) arrives as a direct message.
- A deleted object's id is remembered for 90 days, so a Create that arrives after its Delete cannot bring the post
  back; the post's ObjectRecord goes with it.
- A Join of one of our objects is answered with Ignore, as FEP-8a8e asks of a server without RSVP.
- A 503 with Retry-After is waited out like a 429 instead of counting as a failure of the host (GoToSocial throttling,
  Mastodon's temporary key failures).
- Status.privapub carries what a Mastodon Status cannot: object type, title, excerpt, cover, the author's source,
  link, video, audio and event details, and up/down votes, with every media URL proxied.

Co-Authored-By: Claude Opus 5.5 <noreply@anthropic.com>
Claude-Session: https://claude.ai/code/session_012CzABvBkbcFqoHdmi8b9WB

PrivaPub/Federation/Inbox/Handlers/DeleteHandler.cs

@@ -65,10 +65,16 @@ namespace PrivaPub.Federation.Inbox.Handlers
 				return;
 			}
 
+			await DB.Default.Update<DeletedObject>()
+				.Match(d => d.ObjectURI == objectUri)
+				.Modify(d => d.DeletedAt, DateTime.UtcNow)
+				.Option(o => o.IsUpsert = true)
+				.ExecuteAsync(token);
 			var post = await _dbEntities.Posts.Match(p => p.ObjectURI == objectUri && p.ActorURI == actor.ActorURI).ExecuteFirstAsync(token);
 			if (post == default)
 				return;
 			await DB.Default.DeleteAsync<PostEntity>(post.ID);
+			await DB.Default.DeleteAsync<ObjectRecord>(r => r.PostId == post.ID || r.ObjectURI == objectUri);
 			await DB.Default.DeleteAsync<TimelineEntry>(e => e.PostId == post.ID || e.ReblogOfPostId == post.ID);
 			if (!string.IsNullOrEmpty(post.GroupId) && await _localActors.FindById(LocalActorKind.Group, post.GroupId, token) is { IsCircle: false } community)
 				await _groups.Announce(community, activity.AsObject(), post.ObjectURI, isNewPost: false, token);