P5: downvotes, private messages from Lemmy, late Creates of deleted posts, and typed details for clients

- Dislike and its Undo are kept as downvotes (Lemmy, PieFed, Mbin, Friendica) and shown with favourites as votes.
- ChatMessage (Lemmy 0.19, Mbin, PieFed to those two) arrives as a direct message.
- A deleted object's id is remembered for 90 days, so a Create that arrives after its Delete cannot bring the post
  back; the post's ObjectRecord goes with it.
- A Join of one of our objects is answered with Ignore, as FEP-8a8e asks of a server without RSVP.
- A 503 with Retry-After is waited out like a 429 instead of counting as a failure of the host (GoToSocial throttling,
  Mastodon's temporary key failures).
- Status.privapub carries what a Mastodon Status cannot: object type, title, excerpt, cover, the author's source,
  link, video, audio and event details, and up/down votes, with every media URL proxied.

Co-Authored-By: Claude Opus 5.5 <noreply@anthropic.com>
Claude-Session: https://claude.ai/code/session_012CzABvBkbcFqoHdmi8b9WB

FEDERATION.md

@@ -87,12 +87,14 @@ Received:
 | `Follow` | follows an avatar or community; `Accept` is sent unless the community approves members by hand |
 | `Accept{Follow}`, `Reject{Follow}` | completes or ends a follow an avatar requested |
 | `Undo{Follow, Like, Announce}` | reverses it |
-| `Create{Note, Article, Page, Question, …}` | stored when a local avatar follows the author, is addressed or mentioned, when it replies to a local post, or when it is addressed to a community the author follows; a public parent is fetched to complete the thread |
+| `Create{Note, Article, Page, Question, Video, Audio, Event, ChatMessage, …}` | stored when a local avatar follows the author, is addressed or mentioned, when it replies to a local post, or when it is addressed to a community the author follows; a public parent is fetched to complete the thread |
 | `Update{Note}` | replaces the content; the previous version is kept |
 | `Update{Person}` | refetches the actor |
 | `Like` | counted and notified, on posts the liker could see |
+| `Dislike` | counted as a downvote (Lemmy, PieFed, Mbin, Friendica); `Undo` takes it back |
+| `Join` | answered with `Ignore`: PrivaPub hosts no events yet (FEP-8a8e) |
 | `Announce` | counted and notified for local posts; shown to followers of the announcer, with the original refetched from its origin |
-| `Delete` | deletes the object, or the actor and its follows |
+| `Delete` | deletes the object, or the actor and its follows; a deleted object id is remembered for 90 days, so a late `Create` cannot bring it back |
 | `Flag` | becomes a report for this server's moderators |
 
 Sent: `Follow`, `Undo{Follow}`, `Create{Note}`, `Update{Note}`, `Update{Person}`, `Delete{Tombstone}`, `Accept{Follow}`,